45. A Good Death Requires a Life Well Lived with Leadership Coach & Comedian Pam Dibbs

Pam Dibbs

Leadership Coach & Comedic Speaker

Live Each Day with Joy…

Pam Dibbs has been an entrepreneur for 30 years and now runs two businesses. She is a leadership coach, facilitator, producer, speaker and comedian — sometimes all in one day! Pam’s latest undertaking is The Good Death Project, based on the premise that a good death requires a life well lived. This is an uplifting episode with lots of laughs. We talk style and even fashion disasters, as Pam recalls the day she spent (many years ago) with The People’s Princess. Yes, that’s right — Princess Diana!

Pam’s Links

Inspiration

  • Fleabag A comedy series by Phoebe Waller-Bridge. “It’s comedic genius. She’s also somebody that deals with death in a lot of her writing. And she has that way of dealing with it where she’s having you face it, but she’s doing it through levity and comedy. I think it’s genius“.
  • After Life A comedy-drama series by Ricky Gervais. “A really, really great look at death in a fresh way with lots of comedy, but lots of heart“.
  • WeCroak App “It will send you a reminder five times a day that you’re going to die. Quotes, funny sayings… It’s brilliant. So simple. Yet so brilliant“.

Cultivate a Relationship with Death

It puts everything else into perspective. That doesn’t mean you need to love the idea of your own death. It’s about using that knowledge of our mortality to live a full and vibrant life.

Steve Jobs had a wonderful practice every day. He would look at himself in the mirror and say: “If today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?” And if the answer was, “No” for more than two days in a row, he would drastically change what he was doing. And he credits much of his success and his achievements in life with his relationship to death.

Some questions to ask yourself at key moments in your life:

  • If you knew this was the last job you would ever take, would you take it?
  • If this was the last week of your life — if this was the last day or last month of your life, what would you decide?

We can bless and release. We can bless and release careers. We can bless and release relationships and be so grateful for what they’ve brought to us.

I want to get to the end of life feeling like I’ve left nothing on the table. To do that you need to know that there’s a table and you need to know what’s on it for you. You need to be looking at that and recognising that tomorrow is not guaranteed. This time we have is really precious.

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Pam’s Comedy

Pam loves to make fun of the human experience. Her comedy brings light and humour to ‘elephant in the room’ topics like death and menopause.

Listen to the full episode to hear comedy bits, including Pam’s take on men experiencing the menopause.

I find when we have more of a relationship with death, we are lighter about life. We don’t sweat the small stuff. We have more of a sense of what really matters. And we find more humour in just daily life. It’s what I call being light-minded, having this lightness and levity.

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A Day with Princess Diana

That’s right. Years ago, Pam Dibbs spent a memorable day with The People’s Princess. It’s a wonderful anecdote, with comedy and heart.

Listen to the full episode to hear Pam’s story, fashion disasters and all.

Let’s just say somebody was having a bad hair day and it wasn’t the princess. So there’s these photos. And I just laugh at what I look like… I’m like, I really did show up looking like that to host Princess Diana?

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Style Notes

Pam’s signature style starts with those fabulous blue streaks in her hair. 💙 And she’s proof that when you find your signature style, it really has an impact. Pam describes the reaction she got when she switched up the blue hair:

“It was so funny because lots of the men in my life complained. They love the blue hair — coaching friends, they’re like, ‘Where’s the blue hair? We love the blue hair!’ So, it was really interesting how much reaction I got when I didn’t have it”.